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My Only Advice on Navigating Love and Relationships
In a recent conversation about her evolving love life, my 28-year-old daughter sought guidance on a common relationship quandary. “How do I know if the person I am dating is ‘the one’?” she asked, pondering whether to accept her current situation despite lingering doubts, or continue searching for a partner who meets all her expectations. Drawing upon my own history, which includes three marriages and divorces, I could offer only this counsel: My own challenging romantic path ultimately guided me to a partnership with her father, resulting in her birth – a consequence I embrace without reservation.
Chance Encounters: Strangers in a Movie Theater Spark Romance
As winter approached its end, we found ourselves at a screening of “Creed III,” initially as mere acquaintances amidst a crowd. While awaiting the movie to begin in a bustling St. Louis cinema, he initiated the conversation. I responded, taking a moment to observe him: gentle eyes, clear complexion, neat beard, and a welcoming smile. A fortunate first impression! Side by side, we enjoyed the film and exchanged contact information as the credits rolled. “You won’t believe how this happened,” Jerome later revealed. He had traded seats with a married couple whose tickets were not for adjacent spots. Years later, we commemorate our serendipitous “Creedversary” with another movie – now seated together by choice.
Capturing Precious Moments: Mother’s Hair and Chemo Sessions
Before the era of selfies and smartphones, my mother was always the photographer in our family. A Minolta camera consistently hung from her neck. Locating photographs of her for school projects was nearly impossible; while she captured countless images, she was seldom in them. Landscapes held no allure for her; loved ones were her preferred subjects. Now determined to document her appearance during chemotherapy, I utilize whimsical Snapchat filters during her treatments. Her preferred filters create striking manes, replacing the hair she has lost. “Look at all my hair,” she chuckles, the filters subtly obscuring the medical equipment in the background. These informal snapshots are our treasured, unforgettable moments in time.
An Unconventional Proposal and Lasting Promise
On a Habitat for Humanity project in Hawaii, I encountered a handsome, blue-eyed man. He was a skilled carpenter; I, an enthusiastic amateur with a nail gun. One afternoon, as we rested and admired the verdant scenery—mountains framing a field with a horse and a donkey—he posed a question. “What do you think,” he inquired, “You and me, a house, some children? I’ll even get you a donkey.” This unusual form of courtship proved effective. That evening marked our first kiss. Several years later, shortly before our wedding, he fulfilled his promise, presenting me with a stuffed donkey.