An Instant Connection Needed No Translation

In the last four months, Senay Imre and Robert Kris, both 34, have had to contend with travel bans, quarantines, flight restrictions, safety distancing and a rescinded curfew order — all ramifications of the coronavirus — before they finally married June 9 in Istanbul.

Ekrem Imamoglu, the mayor of Istanbul, officiated at the Florya lstanbul Metropolitan Municipality in Florya.

“Marrying Robert certainly required a good deal of patience,” said Ms. Imre, who was born and raised in Istanbul. She met Mr. Kris, who is from New York’s Upper East Side, in September 2018 on his first day working as a diplomat at the U.S. Consulate General in Istanbul.

Mr. Kris, who worked in the consulate’s political/economic section, was on the job for only a few minutes when Ms. Imre, who joined the consulate the year before, walked down a flight of stairs and into his life.

“She was gorgeous,” Mr. Kris said, “and we had this immediate connection.”

Ms. Imre, now a cultural affairs specialist at the consulate, had spent eight years in Manhattan, from 2006 to 2014. During that time, she graduated from Marymount Manhattan College and earned a master’s degree in international affairs from the New School.

“I love New York,” she said. ”Such a beautiful and busy place, much like Istanbul.”

Mr. Kris, who graduated from Georgetown, became fast friends with Ms. Imre, who soon took on an unofficial role as his tour guide and translator.

It wasn’t long before Mr. Kris was asking Ms. Imre to be his girlfriend. She twice refused, even though family members and close friends were telling her that Mr. Kris was a keeper.

A potential romance between them seemed virtually impossible when they went out to dinner one night and the couple seated next to them asked Ms. Imre, in Turkish, about her “foreign spouse,” and she quickly told them that Mr. Kris was just her ‘buddy.’”

Disappointed but still not dissuaded, Mr. Kris continued as friends with Ms. Imre, who slowly began to change her mind about the two of them.

In October 2018, on a trip to the city of Eskisehir, Ms. Imre was suddenly seeing Mr. Kris through romantic eyes. “I came to realize that Robert is a really wonderful, loving and unique person,” she said. “He’s honest, ethical, handsome and polite, just too good to be true.”

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Though Mr. Kris’s assignment was to conclude in August 2019, he opted to stay at the consulate by agreeing to fill in for his supervisor, who was expecting a child.

During his extended stay, their relationship blossomed. In August 2019 Mr. Kris’s parents, Mary Ellen Kris and Mark Kris, who live in New York arrived in Istanbul to visit their only son and Ms. Imre. They all went on a boat ride on the Bosporus.

The couple was soon making wedding plans, and chose May 14 as the day they would marry, with their ceremony and reception to take place at the Florya lstanbul Metropolitan Municipality, with 150 guests in attendance.

But the presence of the coronavirus changed those plans. Although they were able to keep their venue, the couple’s wedding date was moved back to June 9, and with safety-distancing in mind, they invited just 21 guests, including the bride’s parents, Aziz Imre and Hayriye Imre of Istanbul.

“We were a little disappointed,” Mr. Kris said. “But the most important thing is that we’re married now, and though the ultimate plan is to live in New York, there’s still a long road ahead, so we’ll see where it takes us.”

source: nytimes.com