Jana Kramer revealed she was a victim of emotional and physical abuse in past relationships to her two million Instagram followers on Monday.
While coming forward about the ‘negative voices’ in her head after having multiple abusive partners, the 37-year-old One Tree Hill alum shared photos of herself holding a sign that read: ‘I’m not broken, I AM enough.’
‘I’ve been mentally physically and emotionally abused in past relationships. I allowed certain behaviors to continue on because I actually believed the negative voices in my head that were spoken to me,’ she captioned a slideshow on her social media.
Vulnerable: Jana Kramer revealed she was a victim of emotional and physical abuse in past relationships to her Instagram followers on Monday
The mom-of-two went on to list some of the toxic messages received from her exes, including: ‘No one will want you’, ‘I’m going to kill you’, ‘I barely pushed you, don’t be so dramatic’ and ‘If you wore something sexier I would sleep with you.’
‘All the words, and abuse equaled, I’m not enough. And I’m not worthy of love. For years I’ve repeated patterns, fallen into the trap of believing those voices, hurting myself and hurting others because of my desire to be chosen, to be enough,’ she explained.
Speaking of her history, she noted that she fell ‘for the same abuse in a relationship because’ she thought it was what she deserved.
Raw: While coming forward about the ‘negative voices’ in her head after having multiple abusive partners, the 37-year-old One Tree Hill alum shared photos of herself holding a sign that read: ‘I’m not broken, I AM enough’
‘I’ve been mentally physically and emotionally abused in past relationships. I allowed certain behaviors to continue on because I actually believed the negative voices in my head that were spoken to me,’ she captioned a slideshow on her social media
‘My healing…your healing…our healing is to stop those negative voices. Now is the time to grow, learn, HEAL, and love ourselves,’ she concluded. ‘We are enough. You are enough. I am enough.’
Her post comes just two months after finalizing her divorce from Mike Caussin, who cheated on her with multiple women during their nearly six-year marriage.
In July, she announced the news in a lengthy caption that getting the ‘final call’ brought ‘tears’ to her eyes and that she felt ‘all the feels.’
Done deal: Jana filed for divorce from the former Jacksonville Jaguars player on April 21, but the pair had split up before in 2016 before they renewed their vows a year later; pictured 2019
Evolution: She continued to try and build herself up as she posted a passage to her story titled ‘Evolve or Remain,’ as she gushed ‘Evolve!!!!’
After externally processing thoughts of ‘failure,’ amid the marriage’s end, the actress said: ‘It’s just the beginning of my story.’
‘Today has not been easy and I didn’t know if I would even say anything’, she began. ‘If I’m honest I had no idea how I would feel. Relieved? Sad? But I got the “final” call that I’m officially divorced and the tears came.
‘My first feeling was failure. That I failed my kids. That I was unlovable, not enough. I had moments of anger that I never wanted this for my reality, for my kids. Let’s just say it was all the feels but here’s what I know….I didn’t fail my kids.
Broken marriage: In her filing she cited ‘inappropriate marital conduct, irreconcilable differences and adultery,’ and the split has been very pricey
‘I’m showing them a strong momma and I’ll continue to do that and walk away knowing I did everything I could. This isn’t the end…it’s just the beginning of my story and I’m excited, hopeful, and ready to continue the healing so I can be stronger, and love deeper,’ she shared.
Jana filed for divorce from the former Jacksonville Jaguars player, 34, on April 21, and the pair recently agreed on a custody arrangement for their two children Jolie, five, and Jace, two.
The pair married in 2015 had split up once before in 2016 after he entered treatment for sex addiction, but they reconciled in 2017 and renewed their vows, before she took legal measures to end it for good.
In her filing she cited ‘inappropriate marital conduct, irreconcilable differences and adultery,’ and the split has been very pricey.
She announced the news in a social media post saying ‘I’ve fought y’all. I’ve loved hard. I’ve forgiven. I’ve put the work in. I’ve given everything I have, and now I have nothing else to give.’
Family: The pair share two children Jolie, five, and Jace, two
Announcement: Jana announced the split in a social media post saying ‘I’ve fought y’all,’ before she said ‘have nothing else to give’
Earlier this month she said on her Whine Down podcast in conversation with former New York Real Housewife Dorinda Medley that Caussin was harboring ‘resentment’ after the split.
‘It’s definitely hard and it’s one of those things where sometimes, like, the process with us has been really challenging because there is that betrayal. He has so much resentment and I’m like, “Wait a minute, you’re the one who hurt me. How are you being mean to me? This doesn’t add up to me.”‘
In addition to the divorce being emotionally taxing it is also financially as it was revealed she is set to pay her now estranged husband $3,200/month for child support and an additional $600K as part of their property settlement which she had said did not ‘make any sense.’
In the custody agreement Kramer’s gross yearly income is listed at $2 million whereas Mike’s is $100,000 with a monthly break down of $166K vs. $8,000.
Mother of two: And relative to child support for kids Jolie, five, and Jace, two, she is responsible to pay the $3,200 because she makes $166K/month and he only makes $8K
Additionally she will spend 240 days per year with her children, while Mike will get them for 125 days. Also in the agreement was a code of conduct for how the ex-partners are to behave.
‘The Mother and Father will behave with each other and each child so as to provide a loving, stable, consistent and nurturing relationship with the child even though they are divorced,’ the document read.
And both have already moved on romantically as Jana has been seen on dates with Jay Cutler, while Mike has been spotted on the dating app Bumble and flirting with women in Nashville, Tennessee.
Emotional: ‘Today has not been easy and I didn’t know if I would even say anything,’ her divorce finalization announcement began before adding ‘I’m officially divorced’ ; pictured July 11