Love Letter: Learning to ‘Keep It Chill’

It took a failed attempt at coercing a casual hookup into a relationship for Coco Mellors, the writer of this week’s Modern Love essay, to see that her anxiety and abandonment issues caused her to chase emotionally unavailable men. With the help of a Buddhist teacher, a therapist and a new love interest, she finally understood that love didn’t have to hurt.

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source: nytimes.com