NYC school encourages kids to stop using words like ‘mom,’ ‘dad’ in ‘inclusive language’ guide

A Manhattan private school aiming to use more “inclusive language” is encouraging its students to stop using the terms “mom,” “dad” and “parents” because the words make “assumptions” about kids’ home lives.

The Grace Church School in NoHo — which offers academic courses for junior kindergarten through 12th grade — issued a 12-page guide to students and staff explaining the school’s mission of inclusivity.

The detailed guide recommends using the terms “grown-ups,” “folks,” “family,” or “guardians” as alternatives to “mom” “dad” and “parents.” It also suggests using “caregiver” instead of “nanny/babysitter.”

“Families are formed and structured in many ways. At Grace Church School, we use inclusive language that reflects this diversity. It’s important to refrain from making assumptions about who kids live with, who cares for them, whether they sleep in the same place every night, whether they see their parents, etc.,” the guide reads.

The document also states how to use appropriate terms relating to gender, sexual orientation, race, and ethnicity.

Instead of asking a person, “What are you? Where are you from?” the correct response should be, “What is your cultural/ethnic background? Where are your ancestors/is your family from?” according to Grace’s guide.

The school defended the guide, telling City Journal its goal is “promote a sense of belonging for all of our students.”

“Grace is an Episcopal school. As part of our Episcopal identity, we recognize the dignity and worth common to humanity,” Rev. Robert Pennoyer, the assistant head of school, said in a statement to the outlet.