“I gotta be honest. I think one of the things that I’ve realized is that I don’t know Will at all,” Pinkett Smith told her guest, Pastor John Gray. “I feel like there’s a layer that you get to, life gets busy and you create these stories in your head, and then you hold onto these stories and that is your idea of your partner; that’s not who your partner is.”
Though the two share two children and have been married for decades, Pinkett Smith said the two are “going through the process of having to dissolve all of those stories and all the ideas of Will,” in order to really know who he is.
“This is intimacy,” Pinkett Smith said. “Just being able to get to who our loved ones are beyond that which we have perceived.”
She said that first they are learning to love themselves, then loving each other as friends.
“Will and I are in the process of him taking the time to learn to love himself, me taking the time to learn to love myself and us building a friendship along the way,” she said. “Let me tell you, that’s been something, to be married to somebody 20-some odd years and realize I don’t know you and you don’t know me and also realizing there’s an aspect of yourself you don’t know either.”