Most people in their search to "be better" will look for some "How to" or special technique to help them "improve themselves".
If you want to lose weight, you look for the how to's on losing weight for help.
If you want to earn more money, you look toward the how to's get richer.
If you want a better relationship with God, family or friends you look for "how to" guidance. This is unfortunate, because JUST how to's do not work.
If the "how to's" were enough, we would all be thin, richer and have freedom!
The fact is most people DO NOT DO what they are told to do; neith do they do WHAT THEY KNOW is good for them!
People behaving according to their basic principles, beliefs or in other words their subconscious thinking. You do not make 99 percent of your decisions; your subconscious thinking makes them for you, even though you think you are consciously making a decision. Your subconscious / belief system makes the major of your decisions.
On a personal note, let me give you an example. I am a Christian. Being a Christian, the most important thing is your relationship with God. There is nothing that can come between you and your relationship with God; not wealth, not worldly possessions, not good works, nor your family. As I read and studied more and more from Bible and other books, I realized that my relationship will not change with God if I make wise decisions. My family is a big part of my life and doing good works does not change my relationship, it just amplifies it. (Giving to help or change a people 'life is always a good thing). People have these erroneous ideas about Giving. People think when you give you get back. You give to give period. I think that you should feel great about giving without expecting anything in return and the honor in that alone is a gift.
"FREEDOM IS THE ABILITY TO DECIDE; LIBERTY IS THE RESULT OF WISE DECISIONS"
LIBERTY literally means the quality or state of being free; the power to do as one pleases. Liberty is the ability to be who you want to be, when you want to be it. Would you like greater liberty in your life? I know I do.
Another example is someone telling you that you can make more money, or get a job done in half the time. Even though we want to achieve this particular result, we have a hard time believing it is even possible. (That is our subconscious thinking)
In the famous book Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki, he states people can become multimillionaires. He knows they can, but most people who listen to him can not see the possibility in their circumstances. He was homeless and went on to become a multi-millionaire, as we all know and if you do not know, read the book. You will gain much insight from it.
What is it that is preventing you from seeing your potential? What is preventing you from getting the results or solutions you want? What do you need to change your circumstances?
You need to put on new perspectives and see afresh. Success can not be taught. "You must experientially (not intellectually) begin to" See Life and Yourself Differently. "So WHO ARE YOU? MOST IMPORTANT, WHAT YOU ARE THINK YOU ARE MORE IMPORTANT WHO YOU ARE YOUR BEAUTIFUL? Are you both ?? Most importantly, if you were to change your subconscious thinking and beliefs, would they be short lived? First looking first. , you absolutely have to change your subconscious beliefs and thinking. Believe in yourself and start changing the way you think.
One of the best books I read is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. It is one of the best books on the book shelves. Start there and read it over and over again and looking with different perspectives on your thinking will change and you will have the ability to be FREE in every area of your life.